You Are Already Complete

What if you're much more than you perceive yourself to be?

In a world where we often look for validation and fulfillment from others, it's easy to fall into the trap of believing that someone else can complete us. But here's a truth that sets us free: you are already whole, already complete, just as you are.

However, society has programmed us to think that without our “other half,” we aren’t whole. Now, I’m not knocking marriage, partnerships, or anything else that brings two people together. I was married for 26 years until my husband passed away. 

From my own experience, what kept us together was the mutual admission that relying solely on another person for your happiness is like trying to catch the wind with your bare hands. It's fleeting and unpredictable, and can ultimately leave you feeling empty. 

But true happiness, the kind that anchors your soul? That comes from within. It's developed through self-respect, self-awareness, and the courage to stand firmly on your own two feet… within a relationship or without one. 

Ironically, in his last days, my husband and I revisited the early, sometimes turbulent times in our married life. It was during one of those times that we actually came close to a separation. 

We talked about how things had changed, though, when we made the deliberate commitment to support each other to be the best version of ourselves that we could be, while still honoring our own self. 

It wasn’t always easy; we both had to work on our shadow aspects. And it wasn’t always 50/50 either (no relationship ever is). At times it was like walking a tightrope, but remaining committed to that choice brought more balance and made our life together work so much better. 

From then on, I didn’t have to ask, “Who are you and what have you done with my husband?” 

Rest in peace, hubby, and thank you for willingly participating in our partnership.